Ocean asked me to drive him into town to play Pokemon Go for the 3rd day in a row.
I said no.
He accepted the no, then asked, “How about tomorrow?”
IYKYK… that’s a win!
One thing I’ve learned raising Ocean is that growth often happens so gradually we don’t notice it until we look back.
That’s been true of this newsletter too.
It turns out it’s been evolving for a while.
I just hadn’t caught up yet.
So if things start looking a little different around here over the next few weeks, it’s because I’m getting clearer on what this community has been becoming all along.
What I Shared in June & July
Plus, I cross-posted some important stories by Sarah Rosensweet (Happy Pride!)
and Melinda Wenner Moyer (Let’s Talk About Drowning).
Here’s why I keep coming back every Sunday to write to you
If you want to learn more about what we’re growing into, read this:
Welcome to Self-Regulated Parent
If you’re raising a neurodivergent kid and somewhere along the way you’ve lost touch with yourself…
The Heart of Parenting
“This was beautiful and deeply moving. ‘We were on the same team’ feels like the heart of parenting. Thank you for sharing such an honest story.”
This one has sparked many comments…
When Parenting Broke Me Open: Raising My Neurodivergent Child Changed the Way I See Myself
We were walking home from preschool, holding hands as we passed Greenwood Playground in our Brooklyn neighborhood.
“When you talked about him being able to feel your anxiety...that is something I try to be aware of. Staying present and intentional is something I am working on this summer too!”
“Wow. Kids have the best questions.”
Don’t they? ❤️
Looking back over the season so far, what’s one small sign of growth you’re noticing, either in yourself or in your kids?
I’d love to see your comments, but no pressure.
☀️ I’m just really happy you’re here!
A kinder future for our kids begins with kindness toward ourselves.
Earlier this summer, I was bemoaning my most extroverted, high social battery child for asking me yet again to drive him somewhere. He said, "you could say no." I have done a lot of work around my desire for approval and peace, even in (maybe especially in) mothering and so I was able to appreciate his directness so much. I feel like I rounded a small curve in my mothering life with those words and am working on staying true to my boundaries and needs, even while knowing mothering will always require some degree of good sacrifice and care.
Thank you so much for sharing my account! I’m truly grateful for your kind words and support. It means a lot to me.