Okay, how is it February? I’m
If you’re struggling, read to the end for a meditation that offers solidarity.
4 Links That Caught My Attention Last Month
Ocean and I have been butting heads about ROBLOX.
He’s 15, his grades are good, and he has some social and extracurricular activities he enjoys. I’m still concerned. I’ve never felt that hours of gaming is good for his emotional regulation or brain development.
Now, it’s impacting our relationship.
So I went down a little rabbit hole, which led me to the first 2 links. No simple solutions, but some hope and solidarity.
Then, a post by Dr Genevieve led me to the 3rd. I’ve been fascinated by the connection between hypermobility and neurodiversity for a few years, and noticed the huge difference core integration and fascia work has on my energy level and ability to focus.
Finally, thank you Maya for your generous lists of children’s books that remind us, this parenting work we do is resistance.
7 Ways to Parent in the Age of Brain Rot from ADDitude Magazine.
Joint Hypermobility Links Neurodivergence to Dysautonomia & Pain
Raising Revolutionary Children is a Form of Protest: A picture book list
What I Published for You Last Month
Each of January’s posts grew from a seed planted by a parent.
When you’re courageous enough to ask a question, you help others. If you’re wondering, someone else is too. I cherish your questions, so please keep asking.
Why Believing Your Kid Fuels Growth — Lessons from Ted Lasso
As parents raising neurodivergent kids, we know how frustrating, discouraging, and worrying it is when they give up on something we know they could learn, right before it finally clicks.
3 Reasons Outbursts Go From Zero to Exploding in Seconds
When our children (of any age) go from calm to explosive in seconds, it can leave us wondering what set off such an uproar.
Am I Wrong to Demand Clear Goals for My Autistic Preschooler?
Asking for meaningful goals is part of a balanced, sustainable approach to parenting your neurodivergent child—one that blends trust, regulation, and advocacy over time.
“Do not forget that raising revolutionary children is a form of protest.”
12 Minute Meditation: Who Are We in Times of Uncertainty and Grief?
Many of us are swimming in ambiguous loss over the daily global horrors that never seem to let up.
We’re desperate to keep our kids safe from harm, and somehow also make them brave enough to dismantle oppression.
We’re raising kids who won’t comply.
We model awareness and compassion.
What choice do we have but to go on?
Have You Seen Hamnet?
Jessie Buckley needs an Oscar for showing us what that feels like—to grieve and go on living.
I just watched it last night. Afterward, I stood up and my body crumpled to all fours, weighed down with collective grief, ancestral grief, absorbed and remembered grief… and maybe some dysautonomia?
Anyway, I was inspired by the movie in this 12 minute meditation for ambiguous grief. Grief doesn’t always arrive with a clear beginning or a clean ending. This meditation isn’t about closure. It’s about companionship.
In February, we’ll get back into some live conversations.
Who do you want to hear from?
A kinder future for our kids begins with kindness toward ourselves.
Thank you for writing. Last month was one of the hardest for me as a parent in Minneapolis. Just wow. It’s challenging to work with a tween with ADHD/ODD who is trying to do non-preferred tasks (homework) while processing knowledge of murder, abduction, classmates’ needs to hide, and all of the tension all around him. We will keep moving through it as best we can.